Rob started this session by telling a story of someone who wrote him a letter telling him that he was defending him from all the criticism that Rob was receiving on facebook and various
blogs. He told him that people were saying that Rob was heretical and the messages were full of fluff and irrelevance. “But I defended you.”
Rob said, “That right there is a chocolate covered turd.” I didn’t feel good after this person told me this …
It’s the nine and the one – you may receive nine compliments and one criticism but of course you remember the one.
We need to learn how to forgive (not the mass of people but the actual person/people)
Become a student of forgiveness
We want to control how people respond to our words, not just control the words we actually say // every head nodded when he said this except for those who gave up a long time ago.
“You are not an ecclesial punching bag hired to take the blows. You are a collective resource.”
You get a paycheck to deal
with our unhealthiness”
It’s ok to guard yourself (your leadership) as a resource.
- It can take hours of your life arbitrating toxic needs
You lose your creative energy, your prophetic abilities … you start losing yourself …
You find yourself holding, creating lists and labels, wanting revenge.

Forgiveness means being freed from all this.
You are absorbing the debt, taking the cost of it completely on yourself, instead of taking it out on the other person. It hurts terribly. Many people would say it feels like a kind of death.

// Obviously the great title kept a lot of us in some kind of anticipation. I mean “one thing”, really? I was pretty sure that it was going to be something pretty fundamental like “The one thing is the She’ma, to love the Lord with … and …”. I lost 20 imaginary dollars to my wife on that bet.
Forgiveness. It seems like it would be theoretically true. If you can take each crass word said about message, the mocking of your mannerisms, the story that someone interpreted to actually disprove your point, and the weekly comments you might get about not wearing a tie, all the tough moments and actually forgive, release and be liberated from their sting then I suppose that would change everything.
h Pete. He uses a lot of paradox, irony, and hyperbole. But he also uses humor, hence the segue entrance.
If I can’t use any biblical language, how would I describe this? to a child? to a Martian? without words? using only drawings and pictures? using only actors? in thirty seconds?
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Some practices to consider:
Q Conference, I understand that they want you to be here and be conscious of those who are gathered with you. I’ll respect it but when I put on my own conference, “Posers, Players, and Punks”, I’ll let whoever do whatever they want. Anyway, they say that they will release video of this one day but in the meantime you’ll have to deal with my subjectivity until you’re able to have your own:
For some it is to be evaluated, “Did you like it?”, “Did they do a good job?” As the preacher, you want to interrupt one of these conversations and say, “How did you do?”
The picture to the right is a quote of collected words of advice to every pastor. It was something like – “The preacher should be honest and transparent. He should use the Bible but not too much but it should be practical and it should be funny too but not too funny because you’re a pastor not a comedian but you should tell lots of stories but not too many because that gets old too. You should use personal illustrations like about your family but try to be creepy about it, and you should admit your faults but not too many because that’s depressing but you really should be open and honest …”




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